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You can't control how they communicate.
But you can change the dynamic.

This 2-minute assessment helps you see your relationship patterns when things get tense—and what actually works when the other person won't budge.

Defender
Fixer
Avoider
Scorekeeper
Collaborator
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Question 1 of 7

Your pattern

The Defender

"You value being understood."

The strength

The shadow

How it shows up

    What helps

    One thing that helps every pattern

    When conversations get stuck, it's usually because both people are defending their position instead of talking about what actually matters.

    Positions sound like: "I need this weekend."

    Interests sound like: "I want to be there for her soccer game."

    When you focus on the why behind the ask—yours and theirs—solutions get easier to find.

    Try this next time: Before you respond, ask yourself—"What do I actually need here? What do they actually need?"

    This is what Clearly is built on

    The patterns you just explored? Clearly is designed to help you navigate them—every conversation, not just this assessment.

    Topic-based discussions that move toward decisions. AI-assisted rewrites when emotions run high. Structure that keeps things focused on what matters—not who's right.

    It's a co-parenting app built around the same principles you just learned.

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